Okay so I said I was 30 something, I said I was blonde, did I mention crazy ? At this age being alone with your own thoughts can be a dangerous thing so I need to get out my reflective time on paper. I have taken stock on the last ten years of my life, what have I been doing? ?
I have been hanging out with the younger members of my team of late who have been asking me questions on how I got the position I have got , how I did it and what educated means did I have to win this fortune. One thing I was happy to share is that there is no one formula when it comes to success and although we are now living in a knowledge rich generation there is something to learn from starting at the bottom, life experience and over a decade of managing teams. Having said that my definition of success is determined by how I see the world and myself, regardless of how others might see me. At a leadership conference I went to recently I had a serious ah ha moment when we were all asked the epic question, how do you define success?
No I didn’t finish school and start straight away on my PHD and go straight out and get the job of my dreams.
I left high school at the age of 17 to pursue my career as a supermodel and ended up working in a modelling agency as an office co-ordinator. As time went on I got a real job and by the age of 19 I was supervising a small finance team after gaining work experience in a financial services company .
Most of my work experience has come by chance, my life experience from learning from more talented individuals then myself and acknowledging my failures ( of which there are many) as well as recognising what I am not good at and not investing time into said areas.
I met my husband when I was 26 of which I define as my biggest achievement thus far as I found a man that could tolerate my whirlwind approach to life, my many ambitions and attempt to keep me grounded and focused on my goals.
My husband is a super grounded introvert. He loves me well despite the fact that my extraverted behaviour leads to public displays of which he finds horrifying for example dancing, karaoke ( and no I can’t sing) and always being the last one to leave a party. At times I have physically seen my husband rendered speechless. There are times he has had to leave the room , I feel for my husband that one day he might pass out from sheer embarrassment.
One good thing I did this year, I actually managed to recently graduate from my business degree, a fact that has shocked my family and many others. Since recovering from this dramatic realisation that I am an intelligent being they have moved onto hassling me about more important things , like how much weight I am gaining or when I am having a baby.
I find it amusing that a piece of paper can change someone’s perception of you and not been able to produce such a piece of paper when requested can render people unable to accept you as a competent human being in the workplace.
I must say on the whole even though I finished my degree never having to attend university and completing my studies by correspondence, intellectual people still scare me as I struggle to watch the news and be able to easily regurgitate the prediction of the next stock market crash or which member of parliament has been suspended for suspect behaviour. This is a skill that I admire and at times envy in others.
In reflection I would like to consider that I have not done to badly for myself, I am 30 something, I am married to a wonderful man who puts up with me, I have a rewarding job as a Contact Centre Manger in a not for profit organisation, I have some property and I am forever grateful for the selfless love of my pets. I volunteer at my local church with people who I consider my family.
In closing I shall offer a single prayer
“Dear God I pray that my experience will not go to waste, that I can use the skills and experience for the greater good and my sense of ambition will not fade with age. That I will be able to define success and I will not one day find myself working at the local supermarket because I have decided that everything I worked so hard for doesn’t matter to me anymore. “
Reflection is done, head is clear. It’s wine time.